Interpersonal Psychology In The Workplace

In practical work.

We must try our best to make the best of our first impression.

This is the primacy effect.

As the saying goes, helping people is the foundation of happiness.

The interaction between people is like sitting on a jumping board. It can not be fixed at any end for a certain height, and the other end is low. It means high and low alternation, so that the whole process will be fun and happy. A person who will never suffer losses and unwilling to give in, even if he has made many good points, he will not be happy.

Because a selfish person is like sitting on the top of a stationary seesaw. Although maintaining the superior position, the whole interpersonal interaction loses its pleasure, and it is a pity for oneself or for the other side.

The reciprocity principle of seesaw is an indispensable art for us to get along with colleagues.

The hedgehog rule illustrates with this interesting phenomenon: two sleepy hedgehog.

Because of the cold embrace, but because each body has thorns, stabbed each other how to sleep.

So they separated for a long distance, but the cold wind was biting, and they had to get together and toss about. The two stabbed finally found a suitable distance: they could not only get the body temperature of each other but also be tied up.

Hedgehog rule is the psychological distance effect in interpersonal communication.

It tells us that people should keep close relationship.

But this is.

Intimacy, not intimacy.

We should learn to use hedgehog rule, and when we are working with colleagues, we should not refuse to be in a thousand miles, nor be too close.

Handle all kinds of relations in a targeted way.

The platinum rule is one of the most influential speakers in the United States, Dr. Toni Alexandra, a commercial radio lecturer. He also wrote a monograph the platinum rule.

Using this concept and method of human life enables us to stay in social interaction all the time.

We should deal with all kinds of relations in a targeted way.

The above is the workplace.

Psychological principles, real life and social psychology experiments prove that people are impressed with each other in their first contact. People will consciously evaluate a person on the basis of their first impressions. The impressions in the future will be used to verify the first impression. This phenomenon is the primacy effect.

In the actual interpersonal activities, a good first impression is given to the contacts.

Smooth and effective development plays an important role that can not be underestimated.

The beginning is not good, that is to spend ten times the effort in the future, it is also difficult to eliminate its negative impact.

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As a new job person, it is necessary to overcome the insecurity caused by the gap between personal imagination and social and company actual conditions, so as to adapt to the soft and hard environment of enterprises, grasp the rules and procedures of work, and listen to the guidance and management of superiors and colleagues, at the same time, get the recognition of the company and others.

This is like the experience of pforming the pupa into a butterfly. The first year's development is hard, but the result is wonderful.

After a few years of work, you will become an independent professional. You should find a position in the company to become a specialist in a particular field.

If the first job of choosing a university graduation is accidental and blind, after two or three years of work, you should be able to re evaluate your career goals and direction according to your self understanding and development potential.

If at this stage, you find yourself unsuitable for your current occupation or have no interest in your current job, changing your occupation early is the best policy.

Yi Ting worked in Kunshan, Jiangsu, and frequently visited Shanghai and Kunshan after the Spring Festival because she used her spare time to discuss career planning problems with her.

According to Yi Ting's statement, the current job makes her sleep poorly and eat badly, just as she is suffering from occupational fear, afraid of going to work, and worrying about seeing her boss.

After talking with Yi Ting, the author realized that after graduating from University, she started from the front desk and moved to the post of warehouse management, birth control assistant, assistant director, administrative personnel supervisor, customer service supervisor, ISO internal auditor and so on. During the three years, there were as many as 7 roles in pformation.

As she said, "I feel like a piece of cloth, and where I need to wipe it out; once the company has the right person, I will hide behind the scenes, because they are indeed more professional and competent than I am." the occupational fear of Yi Ting is due to the fact that in the past three years, there has been no clear direction in which they specialize, relevant work experience and expertise that should be accumulated, and the direct consequence of "East hammer and west one stick hammer" is that they have not played a long-term and sustainable "career foundation".

How can we help Yi Ting get rid of the winding of occupational fear? Career development consultant designs around her career satisfaction (adaptability), personal interest and industry development potential, competitiveness, social needs and many other factors, and designs a career development plan for her.

First of all, let's take a look at Yi Ting's personal interest.

Ding Zhaozhong, who won the Nobel prize in physics, said

"Interest is more important than genius."

Practice has also proved that interest is like an invisible hand in the many subjective factors that affect people's career development.

What is her interest? She likes training, guidance, motivating or communicating with others. She likes to show more in public, and the more people have more desire to express, she can handle with any type of stranger.

Based on her career interests and personality traits, career development consultant described her career development roadmap, that is, from sales representative or customer service in printing, training, express, office supplies and other industries, through sales director, regional sales manager and other positions, and finally to the position of sales director.

Now, Yi Ting has left Kunshan and accepted Offer letter from a Taiwanese furniture office in Shanghai.

As time goes by, you have grown up to be a supervisor, from a "laborer" to a "laborer", and no longer adhere to the role of "setter"; the main task is to train others, make suggestions, contact with other departments in the enterprise, and lead and manage project team work.

But the survey shows that nearly 70.4% of the professional people fall in the fifth, sixth cycle of "professional long-distance running", because this stage needs to learn to be responsible for others and get satisfaction from others' success.

At this stage, if you can not assume the role of management, you should establish the role of a professional in a certain field and get opportunities from horizontal development.

Indeed, not everyone can play the role of a good manager. Just like natural actors and character performers, the differences between the two roles often make greedy people ungrateful.

So is Gu Gu, who is plagued by the technology development path or sprint the management position? In the personality type and employment nature of the author in the diagnosis and test, Gu shows the research and traditional personality characteristics.

That is to say, Gu Yu likes to think, analyze and creatively work. At the same time, he does not like to play the "villain". He hopes that his co-workers can perform their work in an orderly and independent manner.

During the consultation process, the author realized that there was a big difference between the roles of supervisors and ordinary employees. Managers and managers needed to play the "villain" frequently to correct their misconduct, even though this person was once your very good friend.

According to the matching principle of skills, experience and rank, supervisors should be "light" professional and "heavy" in management (coordination, communication, motivation and monitoring).

According to the characteristics of Gu's personality preferences and job satisfaction, career development consultants advise him to identify and shape the career orientation of recognized professionals.